Monday, January 9, 2012

A New Beginning Brings an End

When I told my sister I had been reading some design blogs and was thinking about starting an at-home furniture business, she was more than surprised. She said she couldn't even see me reading blogs, let alone writing one. I guess I never gave off the vibe of being a great homemaker and computer whiz. Weird. If you had asked me 3 years ago, I would have had much different plans for myself. For the past 7 years, I thought my mission in life was to medically save every animal that I came in contact with. I spent all my time working at a vet hospital, or going to school to learn more and move up in the working world. If you had asked me if I was ever going to stop working while I had children, my firm answer would have been "No".

I went through some painful growing over the past few years. I finally couldn't take dropping my screaming newborn at my sister's house almost every morning to be watched while I went to school and work. I was frantically trying to juggle finishing school before moving out of state for my husband to start his doctorate elsewhere. I ended up not finishing, but what I learned from this juggling act was far greater than any school lesson I paid thousands for. I learned that I didn't have to save every animal myself. I learned to define myself not by my past career. I learned to slow down and enjoy one day at a time. I realized that in the long run my sweet daughter didn't care if I was a genius, she didn't care about how much school I finished, and I wasn't born to be anything better than her mom. My daughter will only remember the time I did or didn't spend with her, she would remember how I treated others, and she would remember if I was happy, stressed, or worn out. The best thing I could be was exactly what I thought I never wanted. I love being a mom, nothing is more important.

This past year I have spent a lot of time studying furniture books, history, blogs, and magazines. It is something I enjoy. This is a great new start for me, I am so blessed. I am able to work at home and be there for my daughter when she needs me. I am able to bring beauty into our home to make it "our" place and to provide my family with the comforts and joy that a loving home should have. This is the beginning of a new phase in my life that I now can happily embrace... There is always time for more school later, right?


  1. Your story sounds so much like my own! 4 years ago I was going to nursing school and staying home with my 1 and 4 year old and losing my mind! Putting crazy pressure on myself to get strait A's be a good mom and a good wife and doing all of the things I thought I should or that I thought I wanted to do "for myself". But I was always so stressed out that I couldn't even be good to the people around me. When I stopped it all (didn't finish either), at first I was super resentful!(but I'm not sure to whom towards) And then I started doing furniture, and then blogging.I was able to find a balance and realized that it really is so wonderful to stay at home with my I have 3. I didn't "happily" embrace it at did take a while. I'm happily following along! Would love for you to come by!

    Also, I'm sure you've seen a million times that google followers is closing March 1st, but I don't see a linky follower on your blog to follow. You should add that.

  2. Thank you so much for your words of comfort. It's always good to hear someone who has "been there and done that too". I thought I was a crazy person for awhile there and I'm sure my husband thought I was entering some early life crisis. I can honestly say I am happy now and feel much more balanced. It took time to figure out who I was again. I stopped by your super cute blog and I am a new follower. I can't wait to see what you come up with in the future!

  3. I've been looking to start painting some furniture for my own home and found your blog. I just started a blog myself in part to chronicle the opposite change from yours. I have been a stay-at-home mom up until recently. That has been quite a change for me, too. It's always a juggling act to be the mom and wife I want to be and be the individual person I want to be too. I chose to work later in life for the same reason you did. It's hard to do everything all at the same time. I know I'm a total stranger, but I hope you go back to school later when the time is right for you.

    I can tell your blog and business will be a success. You are very talented. Isn't it amazing how life leads us in paths we never realized were just perfect for us?

  4. I always love a nice comment form a perfect stranger:) I hope the transition to working mom is going as smoothly as possible for you. I'm sure in the future when I do go back to work I will need some good words of advice on how to do it.

    Thank you for all your compliments. I'd love to see how your home furniture projects turn out.